For Good, Not Evil

I got rebuked the other day fairly heavily by a friend about the way I use my gift of insight into people to find and highlight their weaknesses. I think he may be right, so I've been thinking through what things I need to be changing in the way I speak and think about people that builds them up rather than tearing them down. As this friend pointed out to me, I am so in tune with my own weaknesses, and even sometimes consumed by them, that it tends to be the first thing I notice in other people. Of course, in my mind, I can also see the good in others, but if I speak about them, it's their problems that I focus on. I need to stop doing that. It's unloving, unkind, and very ungodly. I wonder if I do it because weaknesses and problems are the things that I identify with most in others... I don't know. But I know that it needs to stop, and I need to take this rebuke seriously.